Relationships are built. Some are fast projects that seem to form quickly and last for awhile. Others are forged over time. Some are light and airy things that fly in the sky like a kite. Others are sturdy and solid with unspoken terms of loyalty. Some get built and rebuilt as the participants adjust and respond to one another.
But I have learned that when some lines are crossed and some words are spoken then what took a long time to build is destroyed in no time at all. A careless word, a bad day, a selfish motive, an unthinking action can do what a demo crew would do. It can trash what was, demolish the structure and leave a place where sometimes nothing can ever be built again.
So in light of that may I suggest that relationships be handled with care and sensitivity. May apologies be given humbly and accepted with grace. May words be straight and kind with no games or manipulations. I also suggest that you consider your motives as you build relationships.
You might want to consider "what is your intent for that relationship and of what value do you place on the bond you have with that person?" I am not saying that relationships should not come to an end. Some are not worth saving. They are unstable and built for wrong reasons but still...take some time and consider. Count the value and the cost.
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