When things seem unbalanced...

I have noticed that it is easy to be magnamious and helpful to another with a good attitude for a period of time. Then at some point when you may begin to feel taken for granted or for some reason the balance of ability shifts or the situation changes and what was seemingly good becomes a strain or even near impossible. At times you simply get worn down physically or emotionally and are no longer willing to continue giving.

The rethinking of what you thought you could do and what is truly able to be given freely is a good thing to do. The problem comes in how you view yourself and how you are viewed by the recipient when this shift occurs. I believe that I have agreed to do a number of things for others in good faith. I have received help from some others as well. I do not want to hold someone else under a promise that they are no longer able to keep and I want them to be able to be honest about what they can give and what is too much to expect as it changes. I want the same opportunity to rethink what I have agreed to do for others.

I am looking at this not in just one situation but in about 5 of them currently in my life and in the lives of others that I am close to. I am just reflecting on this subject and not planning any major shifts in my choices at the present moment. I am just noticing what happens to us when we give and it is not reciprocated or appreciated by others. The result of this can be resentment.

So all this thought on the subject gives a warning for me and others to be more careful what is agreed to do for others in a surge of compassion and how possibly a person could install checks and balances in their agreements that would keep both parties feeling heard. Contracts are a good idea and may encourage friendly and flexible relationships..